Part 2 Maintaining a Conversation: 3. Share information about yourself

Share information about yourself. People will not want to talk to you if you simply bombard them with questions. People are uncomfortable talking to people who ask a lot about others but share little about themselves. Make sure you divulge information about yourself so people will want to talk to you.
  • Try to make a pattern between asking questions and sharing information. For example, you ask someone how they're enjoying a book they're reading. After they share, make a comment about something you've recently read.
  • You should also be willing to answer any questions someone asks you in return. If you seem like you're withholding information, people may become nervous and not want to talk to you.

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