Part 3 Avoiding Common Mistakes: 2. Do not make assumptions about the other person

Do not make assumptions about the other person. Go into the conversation operating under the assumption everyone is a blank slate. Do not assume someone will agree with you or share your values. People are biased to assume those they engage with share similar values and beliefs, but this often not true. In conversation, remember you do not know how this person feels about a given topic.
  • Debates can be enjoyable and, if someone seems open to the idea, it's okay to share your beliefs. However, make sure not to introduce a topic in a way that makes assumptions. For example, when commenting on a recent election, do not say, "That was such a letdown, right?"
  • Instead, bring up the topic in a way that invites the other person to share their beliefs. For example, "What did you think of the recent election?"

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