Part 1 Striking Up Conversations: 2. Watch body language

Watch body language. You want to make sure someone wants to talk before striking up conversation with them. You will not be able to talk to anyone if you approach people before they want to be approached. Watch for signs someone is ready to engage before beginning a conversation if they seem closed off, wait until they're more relaxed.
  • Look for open body language. Someone should not be blocking their torso by doing things like crossing their arms. People who want to talk will be standing tall with their arms at their sides.
  • Someone may also catch your eye briefly, indicating they are open to conversation. This is a good sign it's safe to approach someone.

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